One deceit needs many others, and so the whole house is built in the air and must soon come crashing down.
— Baltasar Gracian
If we are honest about our addiction, we know how it can drive us into secrecy. At first came the little lie – about missing an appointment or coming home late. Then the lie to cover the lie, and then the lies to try to escape from the web of lies that entangled us within our deceit. We couldn’t look our loved one in the eye, we couldn’t risk the truth, and so we lied again and again. Finally the sad day came when we grew comfortable in our little isolated world of fantasy and deception.
Our life became a house of cards, a pack of lies. We couldn’t make an honest, open move for fear of bringing the whole thing tumbling down around our ears. And usually we were not the only ones to get hurt; our spouses, lovers, children, friends, and colleagues suffered too.
We have begun to change all this, but it takes time. We need to continue to take inventory and be fearless and honest with ourselves. Each time we are honest, the lies lose their power, and finally truth comes through.
I’m tired of the web of lies I’ve spun around my addiction. I want to break through into honesty and truth.
Today’s thought from the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation